Just some thoughts on Social Media...

We need to have a chit-chat. If social media (Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, Snapchat, etc.) charged a dollar per minute you were on them, how much money would you owe your phone? I’d be BROKE.

I have a love/hate relationship with social media - I love having the ability to meet people (virtually) you’d never be able to meet & build online communities. I’ve made friends on here that have gone through the same infertility struggles I have. We’ve built our own little IVF community. I’ve gotten advice and given advice I wouldn’t have found elsewhere.

The part I hate is how curated & sometimes just plain fake social media can be. How we don’t even notice but we’re taking in WAY too many people’s highlight reels (literally & figuratively) and unconsciously comparing them to our everyday life. Life isn’t curated & perfect & the lighting isn’t always “just right.” Life is messy! Social media is making our anxiety & depression as a society go up & it makes COMPLETE sense - our brains weren’t meant to take in alllll of this information and opinions and NOISE. We start using it as a tool to disassociate from our own lives.

I’m pretty transparent online, but even I don’t post all the nitty gritty because who wants to see the ugly? I don’t post about struggling with anxiety. I don’t post pictures of my messy house that’s typically got a good layer of dog hair covering the floor (bc what kind of stay-at-home mom would that make me?!) I don’t talk about how I grab my phone to disassociate from life when the baby’s been crying too much and the 5-year-old is going through a fit-throwing phase and I just need a MINUTE 😰.

Have you ever parked somewhere and just watched people? Y’all. We don’t have to turn the tv on to see The Walking Dead. We are living in it! We’re a bunch of zombies! I watched a lady walk straight into the trash can at the gas station yesterday because she was staring at her phone! FR!

We keep saying we can’t function in our society without social media. I’m starting to think I can’t function WITH social media.